I NEVER like to date people who are tight with money. I DON'T find short guys attractive. I DON'T like guys who don't know how to dress. I DO NOT LIKE FEMININE GUYS!!! Aside from all of this, I still gave the midget a chance. I put all my shallowness to the side and dealt with him. He was on the right path from the moment I realized he could make me laugh and I could be myself around him. That was a major plus for me.
Everything was going fine until I started making plans for my birthday weekend. I invited him to my birthday gathering which will be held in Atlantic City, and instead of him saying yes, he focused on who was going to be there. Not that it should matter, but last I recalled it was MY BIRTHDAY and it shouldn't matter who was going to be there. So now we find out he has some type of social issue.
I was ready to stop talking to him, then something told me that he may be the one who's meant for me and I shouldn't drop him like an ugly baby! So I am still talking to him, but I know he can't be the one for me cause I'm constantly getting annoyed by him. He has too many of the characteristics I'm NOT looking for in a man.
Monday, August 9, 2010
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Trying Already?
The only reason he told me is because I've noticed he's been working super hard which has caused us to be a little distant. I asked him if everything was straight with us, and he automatically started assuming I was rushing for a relationship. I got mad. For the record when someone asks is everything straight with us, it doesn't mean I'm asking you to be my man, it means I noticed a change from the way we were to now. That was like a huge turnoff. I put him in his place about that, then he suggest I set aside a day for him and only him! He says he knows both of us are busy and that's the only way we'd be able to see each other often. I don't knoooow. I'm not even n a relationship and I'm already making commitments... I need some advice.
Dessert Fever
On Sunday I had a date with the midget. The midget who turns out to be an inch taller that me. I met him on eHarmony and I didn't even want to go through with the guided communication with him because of the height. But since I'm looking for a good ole healthy relationship, I decided to give him a shot. We talked on the phone for a few weeks before we actually met. I was completely comfortable on the phone with him because I wasn't interested in him. But the more we spoke, I started to like his personality.
Anyway, on Sunday we went to The Cheesecake Factory and it went well. We talked about his past relationships and the wall of trust. We also talked about his future goals and aspirations. After indulging in a red velvet cheesecake, he picked up the check and we went to the park. We spoke about any and everything which took a few hours, exchanged some laughs, then finally decided to call it a night.
He dropped me home and I gave him a little surprise. The day before he told me his favorite dessert was red velvet cake. So the morning of our date, I baked him a cake and scribbled "Enjoy" with a smiley :-) face on it. I enjoyed the date, and for that he enjoyed a moist red velvet cake.
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
There's Always Sand Between My Toes
My cousins wanted to meet at 10am, but I purposely showed up 5 hours later with hopes of not running into them. I only invited two of my closest relatives to accompany us and stayed away from the others. Unfortunately, they didn't plan of leaving the beach any time soon. We were on one side and they were on the other side of the beach. I gave my cousins the signals to take a walk around the beach, or better yet get away from us so I could get some alone time with Akbar. I asked him a few questions in which the elders were curious about. They wanted to know how he felt about polygamy, where women stood in his culture, and if he has racist tendencies. His answers satisfied my curiosity, although I still felt a little weird about the race thing.
A few weeks ago, I had a discussion with my cousin and told her sometimes I can be so picky where the littlest thing someone may do will turn me away from them. (We'll get back to that later)
As Akbar and I are sitting & having an intimate conversation, my soon to be cousin Kervins sneaks on our side of the beach. He saw me chatting with Akbar and decided to engage in a conversation with him as well. When he was done, I already knew where he was headed. He was going to go on the other side of the beach to spread the news about my company. Boy oh boy did my family share their opinions later that day.
Anyway, I started to get annoyed with Akbar when he asked all these ignorant questions about Haitians & Black Americans. "Do they really have Haitian gangs" "I heard the people are really poor over there" "In Brooklyn, why is there a fried chicken spot & Chinese store on every other block?" Are you fricken serious right now!? I'm not sitting here asking if India smells like a football teams locker room aka sweaty ass! At that point I was ready to give up on him, but what I realized is he gets most of his information from white & Indian colleagues... which also leads me to believe on his own spare time, they make fun of us "coloreds"
I choose not to let it bother me right now, but I'm pretty sure it's going to arise sometime in the future.
Other than that we had lots of fun and we enjoyed each others company. we buried my cousin in the sand and we shared funny stories. My cousins enjoyed his company because his sense of humor meshes well with ours.
We have another date tonight, so stay tuned for the next post.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Spoken Words
Inquiring minds would like to know what "Akbar" and I spoke about.
We pretty much touched every topic. We addressed issues such as how his family would feel about him dating a Caribbean lady; if he were to get a job offering in India after being with his girl for 2 years if he would take it; what are some of his favorite things to do; and I definitely told him about my family and their ways.
His family is pretty liberal; he couldn't imagine himself being with someone for two years without marrying them; he enjoys playing tennis although he's a beginner just like me, he enjoys going to the movies, walks in the park, trying new cuisines, and learning new things... just like me, Just Like Me, JUST LIKE ME!!!
We talked about our past relationships and the mistakes we've made. One of the things that amazes me is how much we can talk without having to deal with an awkward pause. The last relationship he had was two years ago and he hasn't found anything promising since then. He's trying to take his time to make sure the next girlfriend he has is the right one. I feel the same way. The next guy I decide to bring home will be a keeper.
We pretty much touched every topic. We addressed issues such as how his family would feel about him dating a Caribbean lady; if he were to get a job offering in India after being with his girl for 2 years if he would take it; what are some of his favorite things to do; and I definitely told him about my family and their ways.
His family is pretty liberal; he couldn't imagine himself being with someone for two years without marrying them; he enjoys playing tennis although he's a beginner just like me, he enjoys going to the movies, walks in the park, trying new cuisines, and learning new things... just like me, Just Like Me, JUST LIKE ME!!!
We talked about our past relationships and the mistakes we've made. One of the things that amazes me is how much we can talk without having to deal with an awkward pause. The last relationship he had was two years ago and he hasn't found anything promising since then. He's trying to take his time to make sure the next girlfriend he has is the right one. I feel the same way. The next guy I decide to bring home will be a keeper.
Monday, June 28, 2010
Testing New Waters
After years of unsuccessfully dating black men, I've turned over a new leaf. For the past month, I raised the stakes for African american men. No more slackers. If I will seek interest in them, they must meet ALL of my qualifications. Normally, whenever I would lower my standards, I would find myself heartbroken with another failed relationship. So just to save myself the trouble, I dating folks in different international codes... :-)
In the previous post I talked about the guy I called "India" whose name just changed to "AKBAR"! We went on a date Saturday afternoon in midtown Manhattan. Earlier in the day he told me to meet him on W.48 and Avenue of the Americas. Silly me, I assumed I would find parking on the street. My GPS said I was near my destination, but as I'm driving around I'm seeing Radio City Music Hall, Museums, Restaurants, etc... Wait a minute! My retarded butt didn't stop to think W42 Times Square is a few blocks away. There's no way I'm going to find parking around here. I pulled up to one of those parking lots and tried my luck! I stood on the corner of were we expected to meet and I didn't see him. I called his phone and it went to voice mail. OH MY GOODNESS, I'M GETTING STOOD UP.
I sent him a text letting him know that I've arrived. Come to find out, we were trying to call each other at the same time and he was standing near me the whole time. We went to central park and took a walk. I was burning up! It was so humid! I was constantly wiping buckets of sweat off of my forehead. I didn't let that put a damper on my confidence. Our conversation was in sync. We talked, we laughed, we had fun.
After a couple hours of sitting on the hill, it began to drizzle. We didn't want to get drenched in the rain so we decided to go to a nearby bistro to get to know each other a little better. When we got to the bistro it was packed like a can of sardines. We left and sat in front of AB (Alliance Bernstein) and talked for another couple of hours. I then realized the time and started to think about my car that was in the parking lot. I made up an excuse and wrapped things up. He walked me to the parking lot and I gave the attendant my ticket. He rang it up and the screen read $46. WOW! As I scrambled through my wallet, he pulled out his credit card to pay for it. I was pleased indeed. He gave me a kiss good night and wished me a safe travel home.
From that day on, we've spoken everyday and he also made plans for us this weekend. I don't know what you guys think, but I'm feeling him.
In the previous post I talked about the guy I called "India" whose name just changed to "AKBAR"! We went on a date Saturday afternoon in midtown Manhattan. Earlier in the day he told me to meet him on W.48 and Avenue of the Americas. Silly me, I assumed I would find parking on the street. My GPS said I was near my destination, but as I'm driving around I'm seeing Radio City Music Hall, Museums, Restaurants, etc... Wait a minute! My retarded butt didn't stop to think W42 Times Square is a few blocks away. There's no way I'm going to find parking around here. I pulled up to one of those parking lots and tried my luck! I stood on the corner of were we expected to meet and I didn't see him. I called his phone and it went to voice mail. OH MY GOODNESS, I'M GETTING STOOD UP.
I sent him a text letting him know that I've arrived. Come to find out, we were trying to call each other at the same time and he was standing near me the whole time. We went to central park and took a walk. I was burning up! It was so humid! I was constantly wiping buckets of sweat off of my forehead. I didn't let that put a damper on my confidence. Our conversation was in sync. We talked, we laughed, we had fun.
After a couple hours of sitting on the hill, it began to drizzle. We didn't want to get drenched in the rain so we decided to go to a nearby bistro to get to know each other a little better. When we got to the bistro it was packed like a can of sardines. We left and sat in front of AB (Alliance Bernstein) and talked for another couple of hours. I then realized the time and started to think about my car that was in the parking lot. I made up an excuse and wrapped things up. He walked me to the parking lot and I gave the attendant my ticket. He rang it up and the screen read $46. WOW! As I scrambled through my wallet, he pulled out his credit card to pay for it. I was pleased indeed. He gave me a kiss good night and wished me a safe travel home.
From that day on, we've spoken everyday and he also made plans for us this weekend. I don't know what you guys think, but I'm feeling him.
A Quick Word of Advice
I'm not sure if this has happened to anyone, but what's up with guys who want to date you asking YOU to meet them somewhere. Whatever happened to those days when guys would show up at your door to pick you up, then drop you in front of your door once the date was over.... what ever happened to that?
I'll tell you what happened... STALKERS! Nowadays, the least I'd accept is meeting up at a public area convenient for yourself. The other day I was talking to Spanish albino. I live in Queens now, and he lives in Brooklyn. He said we could do anything I wanted to do... I told him I want to have lunch at Roosevelt Mall. He quickly agreed. When the day came for us to meet, he asked where we were meeting up, I told him we could meet in queens then drive to Long Island, which is where the mall is located. He cut me off by asking if we could meet in Brooklyn where it's easier for him. I told him NO, when he's able to come my way, then we'll set something up. This was clearly an "OMG" moment.
If you aren't willing to meet me half way then I won't be willing to meet you at all.
I'll tell you what happened... STALKERS! Nowadays, the least I'd accept is meeting up at a public area convenient for yourself. The other day I was talking to Spanish albino. I live in Queens now, and he lives in Brooklyn. He said we could do anything I wanted to do... I told him I want to have lunch at Roosevelt Mall. He quickly agreed. When the day came for us to meet, he asked where we were meeting up, I told him we could meet in queens then drive to Long Island, which is where the mall is located. He cut me off by asking if we could meet in Brooklyn where it's easier for him. I told him NO, when he's able to come my way, then we'll set something up. This was clearly an "OMG" moment.
If you aren't willing to meet me half way then I won't be willing to meet you at all.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Three and a Half
I spent the night on OkCupid, and surprisingly enough only one freak hit me up! The rest of them were normal guys. There were three and a half guys who caught my interest. If you're wondering how there could be a half, you'll soon find out.
Candidate #1- We'll call "the soccer player". He's tall, African, and he looks pretty decent. After a few hours of exchanging I.M's we finally exchanged numbers. Unfortunately, The conversation ended along with the I'M's. He sent empty texts that only created small talk, but nothing there... So far, we're still bullshitting each other by responding and sending "hey". If nothing progresses after tomorrow, I'm deleting the number.
Candidate #2- I call him "Frappuccino". The conversation flowed from the minute he winked at me. He was having a mocha frappuccino at Starbucks and I was having strawberry milk at home. The communication really had me going. Once we stopped talking, I checked out his profile. His pictures was the first thing I looked at. He was hot! Six packs, glistening skin, biceps on point... He was an A+ in my book up until I saw his age. He's 34. Too bad he wasn't thirty. For me age isn't just a number. Maybe when I'm thirty I'll be cool wth the age difference.
Candidate #3- I call him "India". See, when I give them little names like this, It's easier for me [and you]to remember. India has it all. He's attractive, good listener, smart, morals, respectful.... I like him already. We communicate well with one another, the conversation flows, we are on the same page, and we spent an hour on I.M, an hour talking, and all day & afternoon texting. So far, I haven't seen any flaws or anaything that would send me running. I like him.
Candidate #3.5- He's from Philly, but I'll call him the "Idiot". He started the conversation with an argument. He stated I sent him a wink in which I know wasn't true because I never sent anyone a wink. Anywho, we had a real conversation up until the breaker crept in. He was giving me a scenario of how he can be romantic. He said he'll have rose petals all over, a bottle of champagne on ice, and a lingerie my size laid out on the bed. In my mind I'm thinking this guy is full of shit! Your idea of being romantic is getting a girl you barely know into bed. I entertained his idea of being romantic by asking him what type of champagne he would have on ice, the IDIOT said MERLOT. Ok... I wrapped up the conversation and that was that.
These guys were decent, but the only one who still has my interest is India
Candidate #1- We'll call "the soccer player". He's tall, African, and he looks pretty decent. After a few hours of exchanging I.M's we finally exchanged numbers. Unfortunately, The conversation ended along with the I'M's. He sent empty texts that only created small talk, but nothing there... So far, we're still bullshitting each other by responding and sending "hey". If nothing progresses after tomorrow, I'm deleting the number.
Candidate #2- I call him "Frappuccino". The conversation flowed from the minute he winked at me. He was having a mocha frappuccino at Starbucks and I was having strawberry milk at home. The communication really had me going. Once we stopped talking, I checked out his profile. His pictures was the first thing I looked at. He was hot! Six packs, glistening skin, biceps on point... He was an A+ in my book up until I saw his age. He's 34. Too bad he wasn't thirty. For me age isn't just a number. Maybe when I'm thirty I'll be cool wth the age difference.
Candidate #3- I call him "India". See, when I give them little names like this, It's easier for me [and you]to remember. India has it all. He's attractive, good listener, smart, morals, respectful.... I like him already. We communicate well with one another, the conversation flows, we are on the same page, and we spent an hour on I.M, an hour talking, and all day & afternoon texting. So far, I haven't seen any flaws or anaything that would send me running. I like him.
Candidate #3.5- He's from Philly, but I'll call him the "Idiot". He started the conversation with an argument. He stated I sent him a wink in which I know wasn't true because I never sent anyone a wink. Anywho, we had a real conversation up until the breaker crept in. He was giving me a scenario of how he can be romantic. He said he'll have rose petals all over, a bottle of champagne on ice, and a lingerie my size laid out on the bed. In my mind I'm thinking this guy is full of shit! Your idea of being romantic is getting a girl you barely know into bed. I entertained his idea of being romantic by asking him what type of champagne he would have on ice, the IDIOT said MERLOT. Ok... I wrapped up the conversation and that was that.
These guys were decent, but the only one who still has my interest is India
Dating is Draining
After a week of not blogging, I've been out there dating. I had a date with Mr. Texter and I thought it went well. We had dinner at a Chinese restaurant and their food taste as if it was soaked, seasoned, and cooked in salt. After dinner, we took a walk around St. Johns University and he showed me a great we of NYC. We shared a kiss and the deal breaker was lurking around my breast. Yes! He put his hand on my boob, and I cut that kiss short and started talking about sex. I asked him how long does he normally wait before he sleeps with a chick and he told me after date #1 or #2. I told him I would like to wait until I'm in a loving relationship. Apparently he wasn't up for the ride so he hopped off the bandwagon. SORRY SUCKER, I'M NOT PAYING eHARMONY MONEY JUST FOR A FLING!
Two days later I was supposed to meet up with spanish albino but a few hours before we met he asked me if I am physically attracted to him. Of course I told him I thought he was cute, but he cancelled anyway. I figured because his self-esteem was scraping the bottom of his shoe, he flaked out.
Sunday night I actually was on the brinks of giving up because I am tired of the losers and I'm running out of breath searching for the winner of my heart. Whew! I'm tightening those laces.
Two days later I was supposed to meet up with spanish albino but a few hours before we met he asked me if I am physically attracted to him. Of course I told him I thought he was cute, but he cancelled anyway. I figured because his self-esteem was scraping the bottom of his shoe, he flaked out.
Sunday night I actually was on the brinks of giving up because I am tired of the losers and I'm running out of breath searching for the winner of my heart. Whew! I'm tightening those laces.
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Mister Texter
I met this guy on eHarmony and he caught my attention. We'll call him "Nigeria". Nigeria meets my basic [physical, emotional, & educational] standards. The first time we spoke was on Sunday and the conversation went well. Being that he didn't scare me off from the first conversation, I kept communicating with him throughout the week. We would send messages to each other asking the basic questions (how was your day, did you sleep well, etc).
I was having a bad day on Thursday cause I got drenched in the rain. Nigeria text me and we began to converse. I asked him about the African restaurant he went to the night before and he told me it was great, when he takes me there, he knows I will like it. I told him I'll take his word for it. But what attracted me to him was when he said "I won't ever let you down." Now even though it was just a text message, it was something about those words that made him seem manly!
Anyway, we text everyday. But today I asked him if we could talk later...
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He finally TEXT back at 1:30am (probably hoping I was asleep) saying sure, of course we could talk. Time wouldn't have been an issue if he respond earlier instead of 4HOURS LATER! What's the point of caking with someone if you can't hear their voice? I don't know. I like Nigeria, but somethings up!
I was having a bad day on Thursday cause I got drenched in the rain. Nigeria text me and we began to converse. I asked him about the African restaurant he went to the night before and he told me it was great, when he takes me there, he knows I will like it. I told him I'll take his word for it. But what attracted me to him was when he said "I won't ever let you down." Now even though it was just a text message, it was something about those words that made him seem manly!
Anyway, we text everyday. But today I asked him if we could talk later...
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He finally TEXT back at 1:30am (probably hoping I was asleep) saying sure, of course we could talk. Time wouldn't have been an issue if he respond earlier instead of 4HOURS LATER! What's the point of caking with someone if you can't hear their voice? I don't know. I like Nigeria, but somethings up!
Thursday, June 10, 2010
You've Gotta Be Kidding Me!
I don't know why I keep playing myself on that OkCupid website. I feel since it's a free website, all the weirdos gather up like a group of homeless at a soup kitchen. A few hours ago I logged on to OkCupid and once again, I.M's drowned my screened...
The first I.M was from "sock4u"... he has no photos, no about me, and no information about his image! I carried on a conversation with him just to kill time. I dismissed him when he gave me his number trying to get mines in return... UMMM HELLO? I WOULDN'T EVEN WASTE MY TIME GIVING YOU THE CHINESE RESTAURANTS NUMBER WITH YOUR PROBABLY FAKE PROFILE!!!
The next retarded message came from "thechampishere3"--seriously? That's your username... how lame. Anyway, the first question he asks me is "you got a booty?"... I asked what was the purpose of his question. He replied "do you like to bend over?" ARE YOU THAT BACKED UP THAT YOU HAVE TO CREATE A PROFILE THAT'S LONGER THAN THE NILE RIVER TO TRY AND GET SOME ASS?!?!?! I told him to get lost before I report him!
The last retarded message was from "tantam". He started off by saying how sexy I am. I don't know about you, but I like receiving compliments. His little dumb ass should have made conversation before asking me if he could be my best friend aka sex buddy. UMMM.... YOU LOOK LIKE A 15 YEAR OLD ON THE D.L AND YOU THINK IMMA GET WITH YOU, C'MON GET SERIOUS.
But wait, that's not all... Despo hit me up today and asked "do you remember me...?" I believe it was just the other day when you first hit me up. Do you know that you were that boring and I wouldn't remember you....? You're right, I wouldn't remember you if you didn't tell me that sickening information about you dating your cousin. He asked for another opportunity to win my heart over and I just let him down easy by saying we weren't a match. And once again he yelled at me this time saying "Any girl would kill to have me!" IF THAT WAS THE CASE YOU WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN SINGLE FOR SEVEN YEARS!
I'm still remaining optimistic. I want the good men to start coming out from the bushes!
The first I.M was from "sock4u"... he has no photos, no about me, and no information about his image! I carried on a conversation with him just to kill time. I dismissed him when he gave me his number trying to get mines in return... UMMM HELLO? I WOULDN'T EVEN WASTE MY TIME GIVING YOU THE CHINESE RESTAURANTS NUMBER WITH YOUR PROBABLY FAKE PROFILE!!!
The next retarded message came from "thechampishere3"--seriously? That's your username... how lame. Anyway, the first question he asks me is "you got a booty?"... I asked what was the purpose of his question. He replied "do you like to bend over?" ARE YOU THAT BACKED UP THAT YOU HAVE TO CREATE A PROFILE THAT'S LONGER THAN THE NILE RIVER TO TRY AND GET SOME ASS?!?!?! I told him to get lost before I report him!
The last retarded message was from "tantam". He started off by saying how sexy I am. I don't know about you, but I like receiving compliments. His little dumb ass should have made conversation before asking me if he could be my best friend aka sex buddy. UMMM.... YOU LOOK LIKE A 15 YEAR OLD ON THE D.L AND YOU THINK IMMA GET WITH YOU, C'MON GET SERIOUS.
But wait, that's not all... Despo hit me up today and asked "do you remember me...?" I believe it was just the other day when you first hit me up. Do you know that you were that boring and I wouldn't remember you....? You're right, I wouldn't remember you if you didn't tell me that sickening information about you dating your cousin. He asked for another opportunity to win my heart over and I just let him down easy by saying we weren't a match. And once again he yelled at me this time saying "Any girl would kill to have me!" IF THAT WAS THE CASE YOU WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN SINGLE FOR SEVEN YEARS!
I'm still remaining optimistic. I want the good men to start coming out from the bushes!
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
A Little DesperateAre We?
So last night I'm on OkCupid checking to see if I have any messages. All of a sudden, I'm getting I.M's left and right.One of the instant messages came from this guy that we will call "Despo". Within two instant messages, Despo already offered me a chance to be his girlfriend. Hmmm... why are you in such a rush to claim a girl you barely know?
Well, his ONE PROFILE PICTURE didn't totally scare me away so I decided to ask him a few questions to see if he would pass the basic attraction test. How tall are you, do you work, do you go to school, do to go to church, and what are your long-term goals were the questions I asked. He replied 5'4, unemployed, haven't been to school since he graduated HIGH SCHOOL, doesn't go to church, and his long-term goal is to get married! The height wouldn't have been a problem if I was 4'11! I'm 5'5 and I love to wear shoes, it wouldn't have worked out. He doesn't worked, yet wants to get married... how exactly do you plan on providing for your family--or even yourself?! At the age of 24, Despo should have been working towards the future... but it doesn't seem to interest him.
It gets worse, after a long story of how Despo mistakenly dated his cousin for a month, I terminated the conversation. Today, he calls me and begs me to let him in my heart... then he tries to convince me to let him be a father to my son... then he tells me he deserves to be in a relationship with me because he hasn't been in one since 2003. Okaaaaay buddy, this is where I draw the line. I just sent him an I.M saying I think we could be great friends, he is not emotionally ready for a relationship and it just wouldn't work out... Can you believe he bust out the CAPS LOCK on me?! He says "I DON'T WANT A GREAT FRIEND, I WANT A GIRLFRIEND... I DESERVE ONE AFTER 7 YEARS!!!" Whoa! with that being said, I deleted his number and told Despo to do the same...
This dating life seems like it's getting worse, but I'm staying optimistic! :-D
Well, his ONE PROFILE PICTURE didn't totally scare me away so I decided to ask him a few questions to see if he would pass the basic attraction test. How tall are you, do you work, do you go to school, do to go to church, and what are your long-term goals were the questions I asked. He replied 5'4, unemployed, haven't been to school since he graduated HIGH SCHOOL, doesn't go to church, and his long-term goal is to get married! The height wouldn't have been a problem if I was 4'11! I'm 5'5 and I love to wear shoes, it wouldn't have worked out. He doesn't worked, yet wants to get married... how exactly do you plan on providing for your family--or even yourself?! At the age of 24, Despo should have been working towards the future... but it doesn't seem to interest him.
It gets worse, after a long story of how Despo mistakenly dated his cousin for a month, I terminated the conversation. Today, he calls me and begs me to let him in my heart... then he tries to convince me to let him be a father to my son... then he tells me he deserves to be in a relationship with me because he hasn't been in one since 2003. Okaaaaay buddy, this is where I draw the line. I just sent him an I.M saying I think we could be great friends, he is not emotionally ready for a relationship and it just wouldn't work out... Can you believe he bust out the CAPS LOCK on me?! He says "I DON'T WANT A GREAT FRIEND, I WANT A GIRLFRIEND... I DESERVE ONE AFTER 7 YEARS!!!" Whoa! with that being said, I deleted his number and told Despo to do the same...
This dating life seems like it's getting worse, but I'm staying optimistic! :-D
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
A New Approach to Dating
Being single in NYC is natural yet hard if you've been single for over a year. I was never a big fan of online dating, but I'm ready to give it a go! I've been a victim of cheaters, liars, and deceivers. I figured maybe I just have bad judgement in the men I choose. I don't categorize myself as a bitter black woman because of the hurt & pain I've been through, but I consider myself a strong black woman because I was able to manifest through all of that and still be optimistic for the next relationship.
I've recently become a member of Okcupid and eHarmony. One of them free, the other pricey! So far, I haven't been on any dates, but then again I'm somewhat picky. The first guy I communicated with was pretty cool. We'll call him "West End". I met him off of eHarmony. I felt we had an instant connection! He's white and I'm black, so I had to make sure that wasn't going to be an issue. He assured me it wouldn't.
Our first date was supposed to be a movie date. We were scheduled to meet at 9pm that Saturday night. I got dressed, put on my Givenchy Absolutely Irresistible, and left the house EARLY. I was coming from Queens and Commuting to Manhattan. I was 15 minutes in on the Van Wyck... I got a TEXT saying "I'm a little drunk right now, can we reschedule for 10 o'clock."
First things first, when you know you're scheduled to meet with someone for the first time DON'T GET DRUNK! I understand you were watching the hockey game and you probably forgot about our date... so let me do you a favor... forget about our date, maybe some other time.
The following weekend, he wanted to try this again. I said alright, what do you want to do? He said he couldn't go out because he just had foot surgery. He asked if it was alright to watch a movie at his house. At first I just wanted a date and said yes without thinking, but then I'm thinking... I DON'T KNOW YOU! HELL NO I'M NOT GOING OVER THERE!!! I called him an hour later, I lied and said I couldn't find a baby sitter. We agreed we would try for another day... or at least when his foot gets better.
He calls me that night while I was having dinner with my cousin & the kids at Red Lobster. I asked him "How's your foot feeling?" he replies "It's fine, I keep it soaked in ice and let it cool off for a while then soak it again." I said "Oh okay, that's good to hear." He then says "I'm really horny though... This morning, I masturbated to porn..." ARE YOU FUCKIN KIDDING ME!!!!!????? I just said I'm having dinner with my family--I never even met you--ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! I figured it was a race thing. Cause I'm sure if it were someone he was serious about dating, he wouldn't have said that. I'm no one's niggu whore!
I rushed off of the phone and never called him again.
It seems like this online dating this is gonna be hard... but I will keep trying until I find MY MAN!
I've recently become a member of Okcupid and eHarmony. One of them free, the other pricey! So far, I haven't been on any dates, but then again I'm somewhat picky. The first guy I communicated with was pretty cool. We'll call him "West End". I met him off of eHarmony. I felt we had an instant connection! He's white and I'm black, so I had to make sure that wasn't going to be an issue. He assured me it wouldn't.
Our first date was supposed to be a movie date. We were scheduled to meet at 9pm that Saturday night. I got dressed, put on my Givenchy Absolutely Irresistible, and left the house EARLY. I was coming from Queens and Commuting to Manhattan. I was 15 minutes in on the Van Wyck... I got a TEXT saying "I'm a little drunk right now, can we reschedule for 10 o'clock."
First things first, when you know you're scheduled to meet with someone for the first time DON'T GET DRUNK! I understand you were watching the hockey game and you probably forgot about our date... so let me do you a favor... forget about our date, maybe some other time.
The following weekend, he wanted to try this again. I said alright, what do you want to do? He said he couldn't go out because he just had foot surgery. He asked if it was alright to watch a movie at his house. At first I just wanted a date and said yes without thinking, but then I'm thinking... I DON'T KNOW YOU! HELL NO I'M NOT GOING OVER THERE!!! I called him an hour later, I lied and said I couldn't find a baby sitter. We agreed we would try for another day... or at least when his foot gets better.
He calls me that night while I was having dinner with my cousin & the kids at Red Lobster. I asked him "How's your foot feeling?" he replies "It's fine, I keep it soaked in ice and let it cool off for a while then soak it again." I said "Oh okay, that's good to hear." He then says "I'm really horny though... This morning, I masturbated to porn..." ARE YOU FUCKIN KIDDING ME!!!!!????? I just said I'm having dinner with my family--I never even met you--ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! I figured it was a race thing. Cause I'm sure if it were someone he was serious about dating, he wouldn't have said that. I'm no one's niggu whore!
I rushed off of the phone and never called him again.
It seems like this online dating this is gonna be hard... but I will keep trying until I find MY MAN!
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